| This is the time of year that people seem to go hell for leather on goal setting or working on some kind of resolutions. [Which I blogged about this time last year] Caution first! Acts of love are more powerful than acts of will When we get into the goal setting mode it can be heavy and cumbersome and feel like we have to carry this burden of action and follow up with us everywhere we go. Beating ourselves up in the process if we don’t achieve all the things, we said we would. |  |
When the 'should’s', the 'must’s' and the 'have to’s' start taking over your mental space you know you’re onto a loser. A life by design, doing the things you love will automatically being the energy required to do the job, without all the force of goals and structure. No discipline required. Do the things you love with the people you want to when you want to.
But what and how?
Sit quietly and listen
Take time out from the noise and the heavy structure of the day and find time to create your own internal noise rather than the external stuff that surrounds us daily. Get a sense of what is true for you and what is not. The sense of direction you get comes from a place that is true to you. You can trust in it and use that to your advantage. Then every other decision, goal, or intention you set will be grounded in the clear honest signal deep inside. Trust the silence.
A way to take action?
Be gentle as you move
There is a physiological tussle in behaviour change and personal development. So being kind to yourself as you would your clients is a great way to start. The science backs this up. I have blogged about him before but BJ Fogg at Stanford Uni who wrote the book ‘Tiny Habits’ explains that starting and staying small on new action is the best recipe for success.
What can you ask yourself before embarking on a new path if that is what you have planned? Equally if you are doing more of the same these questions, from Lisa O’Neill CEO of Thought Leaders, are equally as valid:
The considerate quality of these questions is a great base to work off for both yourself and your clients – success looms….go get it!
[Inspiration kindly received from Matt Church at Thought Leaders]
But what and how?
Sit quietly and listen
Take time out from the noise and the heavy structure of the day and find time to create your own internal noise rather than the external stuff that surrounds us daily. Get a sense of what is true for you and what is not. The sense of direction you get comes from a place that is true to you. You can trust in it and use that to your advantage. Then every other decision, goal, or intention you set will be grounded in the clear honest signal deep inside. Trust the silence.
A way to take action?
Be gentle as you move
There is a physiological tussle in behaviour change and personal development. So being kind to yourself as you would your clients is a great way to start. The science backs this up. I have blogged about him before but BJ Fogg at Stanford Uni who wrote the book ‘Tiny Habits’ explains that starting and staying small on new action is the best recipe for success.
What can you ask yourself before embarking on a new path if that is what you have planned? Equally if you are doing more of the same these questions, from Lisa O’Neill CEO of Thought Leaders, are equally as valid:
- Is it true?
- Is it kind?
- Is it useful?
The considerate quality of these questions is a great base to work off for both yourself and your clients – success looms….go get it!
[Inspiration kindly received from Matt Church at Thought Leaders]
