I was recently on tour with my colleagues from Holistic Movement Coach (HMC). I've dropped some pictures in below so you can see what we got up to.
But this blog is about the title and the topic I presented on. "The Emotionally Intelligent Trainer."
I want to expand so you can understand just how powerful emotional intelligence is and ways in which you can develop it for yourself to help you become even better at what you do.
But this blog is about the title and the topic I presented on. "The Emotionally Intelligent Trainer."
I want to expand so you can understand just how powerful emotional intelligence is and ways in which you can develop it for yourself to help you become even better at what you do.
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Emotional Intelligence (EI) has been studied widely now and is has more impact on your success whatever way you measure that either intelligence (IQ) or personality. Both these last 2 tend to be fairly fixed from a young age but EI is something that is flexible - like our brains it is 'plastic' and can be developed.
Top performers in whatever field have high EI. That's now a given. But also those with high IQ are often our performed by those with lower IQ. How can that be? - well it's down to their level of EI - that is the differentiating factor.
Those with a higher EI score tend to earn more. In fact it has been worked out that for every EI point you score, you earn an extra $1,300 per year. That equates to about $29,000 more per year, for high EI people compared to low EI people!!
Want to earn more?? - then work on these 4 areas below and you stand a good chance of doing so.
Top performers in whatever field have high EI. That's now a given. But also those with high IQ are often our performed by those with lower IQ. How can that be? - well it's down to their level of EI - that is the differentiating factor.
Those with a higher EI score tend to earn more. In fact it has been worked out that for every EI point you score, you earn an extra $1,300 per year. That equates to about $29,000 more per year, for high EI people compared to low EI people!!
Want to earn more?? - then work on these 4 areas below and you stand a good chance of doing so.
| If you take a look at this model to the right you can see the 4 key dimensions of EI and how they relate to behaviour. There is the personal competence on the top line and the social on the bottom line. These 4 areas are something you could score yourself out of 10 on right now!! Go ahead, score yourself /10 on each |  |
Here are some tips on fine tuning these 4 with practice just like you would work on your skills in any other endeavour. If you would like more info I am happy to share more of these tips that I have left below. Just hit me up here.
Self Awareness skills:
1. Quit treating your feelings as bad and good - they just are, get comfortable with them.
2. Observe the ripple effect of your emotions - the impact you have on others is always more than you think, take care with that
3. Lean into discomfort - don't avoid the difficult stuff you will learn more about you by leaning into it
4. Feel your emotinos physically - there may be patterns you feel in your body when you start to observe, again lean into it to be more aware - try to link them for better understanding
5. Know who and what pushes your buttons - knowing is managing, we all have these people in our lives awareness, is the key
2. Observe the ripple effect of your emotions - the impact you have on others is always more than you think, take care with that
3. Lean into discomfort - don't avoid the difficult stuff you will learn more about you by leaning into it
4. Feel your emotinos physically - there may be patterns you feel in your body when you start to observe, again lean into it to be more aware - try to link them for better understanding
5. Know who and what pushes your buttons - knowing is managing, we all have these people in our lives awareness, is the key
Social Awareness skills:
1. Greet people by name - nothing better than hearing your own name, it has impact when you do it for others
2. Watch your body language - 70% of communication is body language so be smart about how you use it
3. Go people watching - I love this I learn so much about human behaviour, do you?
4. Watch EQ at the movies - see how the movie makers use techniques to communicate emotions on screen - very clever
5. Seek/provide the whole picture - Providing the why for people helps them see the whole picture that you get, but they might not
2. Watch your body language - 70% of communication is body language so be smart about how you use it
3. Go people watching - I love this I learn so much about human behaviour, do you?
4. Watch EQ at the movies - see how the movie makers use techniques to communicate emotions on screen - very clever
5. Seek/provide the whole picture - Providing the why for people helps them see the whole picture that you get, but they might not
Self Management skills:
1. Breath right - we all know how important breath is, use it to manage your state when you're flustered
2. Count to 10 - it worked when we were kids right? So it can work just as well now - great way to take a quick brain break
3. Smile and laugh more - the state you are in when you're happy is contagious, same when your sad - let's be happy!
4. Take control of your self talk - almost all of us have that voice in our head. Just don't over listen to it, get into your body to get our of your head.
5. Set aside time to problem solve - do we really even bother with this - we should, it gives our brains time to process and work through things, got to be good for your awareness.
2. Count to 10 - it worked when we were kids right? So it can work just as well now - great way to take a quick brain break
3. Smile and laugh more - the state you are in when you're happy is contagious, same when your sad - let's be happy!
4. Take control of your self talk - almost all of us have that voice in our head. Just don't over listen to it, get into your body to get our of your head.
5. Set aside time to problem solve - do we really even bother with this - we should, it gives our brains time to process and work through things, got to be good for your awareness.
Relationship Management skills:
1. Be open, be curious - it helps you understand others better. Asking good questions, it's all about awareness.
2. Avoid giving mixed signals - re the body language, if our words don't match our body language we will be mixing our message
3. Take feedback well - its a gift say thank you and move on. What you do next is up to you but be grateful for the time they took
4. Have an "open door" policy - if you don't have a door how can you cultivate approachability so others feel comfortable talking to you
5. Only get mad on purpose - use anger smartly and it will have impact. All the time and it's ignored. [Think boy who cried wolf]
2. Avoid giving mixed signals - re the body language, if our words don't match our body language we will be mixing our message
3. Take feedback well - its a gift say thank you and move on. What you do next is up to you but be grateful for the time they took
4. Have an "open door" policy - if you don't have a door how can you cultivate approachability so others feel comfortable talking to you
5. Only get mad on purpose - use anger smartly and it will have impact. All the time and it's ignored. [Think boy who cried wolf]
